Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from millennium. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age difference, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married women for dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek an extramarital affair. I suppose mainly though it is just the human state, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your spouse or anybody else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest grouping, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed distantly, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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